“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”- by Ann Landers

I would read ‘Dear Ann’ and ‘Dear Abby’ daily until they passed in the early 2000s. I remember they were my go-to no matter where I was, from my early tween years all the way through 2001 or 2002. It didn’t matter to me then that they were rivals-I don’t even think I was aware of it, but how sad is that?

How often do we hear the same wisdom verbalized in many different ways, and then one day, it just clicks with us, and we hear it as if for the first time, and it takes hold in our hearts. And the first person looks at us and says, “I’ve been telling you that forever and now you listen?” How quickly we forget that what we have said to someone else may have taken hold in their heart.

Back in college, I was all sputtering and indignant about just this, and my wise teacher told me, “The message is what matters; sometimes we have to hear it many different ways before it grips us.” Ouch. I have to let go of my ego, and reground myself-am I speaking to hear myself speak, or am I speaking because I have something worth saying? If I am the former, time to keep quiet. If I am the latter, it doesn’t matter if it is repeated, because what matters, after all, is the message.

Today, I will try to speak only from my heart, but I think, more importantly, I will try to hear. As always, my hopes are for your hopes and dreams….T